WOMEN AS MOTHER, WIFE, AND DAUGHTER IN
ISLAM
Before Islam women
were extremely mistreated. Newborn female babies were buried alive. They were
sold just like other commodities. In this age of Darkness Islam was the first
monotheistic religion to introduce the rights of women. It is the only religion
that led the world to woman's rights.
The honor of Mother in Islam
The word
"Mother" is not only the synonym of Love but also a relationship that
is referred by Allah Almighty to discuss His love for a human. He says
"I love my men more than 70 mothers." It raised the status of a woman
as the mother to the greatest level and in Islam serving a mother is not only
an act of generosity but is also rewarded in heaven. It is also mentioned in
the Glorious Quran to behave well with our parents.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَٰلِدَيۡنِ إِحۡسَٰنًاۚ إِمَّا يَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَك
ٱلۡكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفّٖ وَلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلٗا كَرِيمٗ
"And your Lord has decreed that
you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both
of them reach old age (while) with you, say not to them (so much as),
"uff", and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word." (QS.
Al-Isra: 23).
Also in Hadith Book
it is mentioned;
Once, a companion sought Prophet
(SAW)'s permission to participate in the Jihaad. Prophet (PBUH) asked if his
mother was still living. Getting the answer in the affirmative, Prophet (PBUH)
advised him to look after and attend to his mother as Paradise is close to her
feet. [Ibne Majah, Nisai]
The honor of Daughter in Islam
Allah Almighty
announced the gift of heaven for every father who raises his daughters
according to the rules of Islam, fulfills their basic needs, and hands them
over to marry legally.
In Hadith it is
mentioned;
"Whoever takes care of two girls
until they reach adulthood - he and I will come (together) on the Day of
Resurrection - and he interlaced his fingers (meaning in Paradise)."
(Reported by Muslim).
So the position of
daughters in Islam is great and also a kind of encouragement for them. As
neither of Prophet Muhammad's (Peace be Upon Him) sons survived but he did not
mourn at them. Instead, the love of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be Upon Him) for
his daughter Fatima(R.A) reflects the love for daughters in Islam. As Islam
does not give preference to sons over beautiful daughters. For the haters of
the daughter, it's mentioned in Quran;
"If you dislike them, it may be
that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of
good." (An-Nisa' 4:19)
The honor of Wife in Islam
A wife in Islam is
also never to be put down or taken for granted and she has permission to
balance her duties and goals without disappointing her husband. In English wife
can be called a "housewife" but in Arabic, she is called as
"Rabbaitul Bait" or the "Queen of the house". So this is a
brief description of the honor of a woman in Islam. It is stated in Islam:
"And among His signs is that He
created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquility
with them, and He had put love and mercy between you; Verily, in that are signs
for people who reflect."
The marriage is not
only for a physical or emotional purpose but it is a sign from ALLAH Almighty.
It is the mutual relationship between woman and man based on divine guidance.
Islam gives the right of kind treatment to the wife. As Prophet Muhammad (Peace
be Upon Him) said;
"The most perfect believers are
the best in conduct. And the best of you are those who are best to their wives."
ALLAH Almighty
stated in His glorious book that He created mates and tranquility, love and
mercy between them. Islam gives the absolute right to a woman over
Mahr/alimony. Islam also gives the charge to the husband as a guardian to his
wife who can support his wife as a senior partner in life.
ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعۡضَهُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٖ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُواْ مِنۡ أَمۡوَٰلِهِمۡۚ
فَٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتُ قَٰنِتَٰتٌ حَٰفِظَٰتٞ لِّلۡغَيۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُۚ وَٱلَّٰتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَٱهۡجُرُوهُنَّ
فِي
ٱلۡمَضَاجِعِ وَٱضۡرِبُوهُنَّۖ فَإِنۡ أَطَعۡنَكُمۡ فَلَا تَبۡغُواْ عَلَيۡهِنَّ
سَبِيلًاۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيّٗا كَبِيرٗا
"Husbands should
take care of their wives with [the bounties] Allah has given to some more than
others and with what they spend out of their own money. Righteous wives are
devout and guard what Allah would have them guard in their husbands' absence."
(Surah An-Nisa: 34).